Wedding Invitation Wording: How to make your invitation sound less stuffy

I googled "wedding invitation wording" like a gajillion times and looked at countless websites when I was writing my own invitation. There are a lot of etiquettes associated with the wedding invitation suite because it's one of those traditions we still hold onto from the good 'ole days of correspondence and word smithing. 

At the same time, in the modern world there's a lot more wiggle room. If you know your family won't bat an eye for breaking some rules and having a little fun (a wedding is a party, after all), here are some ways to add personality to your words so it sounds less pinkies-up and more like YOU.


The formality and etiquette of the invitation wording surrounds giving credit to the host of the party (i.e. the person with the wallet) who is inviting the guests to the wedding. Today, a lot more couples are paying for the bulk of their own wedding, but still receive some help from family members, making this "giving credit" a little trickier because it’s more of a team effort. Some examples of how to address the host, depending on who's hosting:

Together with their families/parents

Together with Mr. and Mrs. [BRIDE'S] And Mr. and Mrs. [GROOM'S]

Mr. and Mrs. [BRIDE'S]

After introducing the host of the party, the invitation should also do its real job—do the actual inviting, and list the couples' names. This is a fine line to straddle, because if you're too cutesy or clever, you could leave the guests wondering if the instructions are more complex than it needs to be. I mean, you're just asking them to come, so no need to get too frilly with it.

If the couple is part of the host party, the name would go before the inviting line, and if there’s another host, the couples’ names would go after.

Couple not hosting:

request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their children/daughter
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their children/daughter
invite you to celebrate the marriage of
invite you to celebrate the love and friendship of


Couple hosting:


invite you to witness two families become one
invite you to celebrate their
marriage / love and friendship / union
invite you to enjoy free food and booze
invite you to witness two families become one

Extra: if the parents aren’t hosting but you’d still like to honor them by mentioning them on the invitation, you can address the couple as daughter/son of the parents like so

[BRIDE] daughter of [PARENTS’ NAMES] and [GROOM] son of [PARENTS’ NAMES]

Another tricky part of invitations is the start time. You want them to get there on time, but putting a start time WAY earlier than when you would walk down the aisle could miff those early-bird guests who will plan on getting there much earlier than the time indicated. Anything before 4pm would be considered afternoon, and after 5pm should be evening. Make sure to talk to your wedding coordinator about what to list here! (while we’re on the topic, if you don’t have a wedding coordinator, GET ONE, even if it’s just for the month-of. Trust me, you’ll thank me later. Ok back to invitation wording. But seriously, get one.)

on [DATE - spell out date, month, year]
at [TIME - four in the afternoon, four o'clock,
4:00pm, etc.]

Then of course, the venue. I tend to like to put the address too, but in a more formal/pretty way which means no zip code and the state spelled out:


Last but not least, it's always good practice to include that there is a reception after the ceremony—even though most will assume that it's there. Some fun ways to say that:

Reception to follow
Dinner and Dancing to follow
Merriment to follow

So say a couple is hosting but still want to mention their parents and want to do something fun with the inviting and the reception line, it might go like this:

Together with their families

Eleanor Astrid Williams Daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Daniel Wiliams
Nicholas Oliver Colt Son of Dr. and Mrs. Jason Colt

invite you to enjoy free food and booze
on the third of November two-thousand and eighteen at half past four in the afternoon

Huron Substation
2640 Huron Street
Los Angeles, California

Merriment to follow


Another place you can have fun with wording is your RSVP Yes/No options. The "accepts with pleasure / declines with regret" could sometimes feel overly formal, and make your guest feel super guilty for saying no (which isn't to your favor if you're secretly hoping that you know, the guest count is lower. Like, OF COURSE you would be sad they weren't there but wouldn't cry about one less head to be charged for cake cutting. Just sayin'). Set the tone with wording like below:

Delighted to join
Sending good wishes

We'll meet you at the desert/on the beach/garden
We'll celebrate from afar

Let's do this
Sad to miss it

Ready to party
Sitting it out

Save me a seat
Let's chat another time

See you down the aisle crocodile
Catch you later alligator


The details enclosure card can get tricky because this is the area where there's a bit of finesse that is required for some delicate info and requests, like a potentially freezing outdoor reception, adult-only reception, we want money not gifts—the list goes on. The trick is to be very honest about why you're doing it, instead of trying to spin it as a positive (no "my greatest weakness is that I'm just TOO organized!" here). Here are some ways to be crystal clear, but still classy about some common details.

Dress warm 

Weather can be quite tricky out on the (insert environment here) and we will be dining outdoors to enjoy the view. We'll try our best to heat the area, but please make sure to dress warm in case the temperature dips as the night heats up.


So that every guest can enjoy the evening and take some time off letting loose, we ask that your little ones stay behind for the night. We hope that the advanced notice allows you time to make arrangements as needed.

Give us money

We are so fortunate to have everything we need in our home to start our life together, and you giving us your time to celebrate with us is gift enough. However, if you still wish to honor us with a gift, we have listed a small select items on our registry, or we ask you consider making a contribution to our savings fund for [INSERT LIFE GOAL HERE - buying a new home, remodeling home, trip of a lifetime for honeymoon, etc.]

Hope that helps as you craft your wedding invitation wording! Remember, a wedding is a party that you're throwing for your loved ones, so they should see YOU reflected in it—in both design and wording!

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You Crest Believe It: Using a Wedding Crest to DIY your wedding

Did you know that there's such a thing called Engagement Season? We've now kicked it off, it starts Thanksgiving and goes until Valentine's Day...funny story, Steven proposed to me in December, so we were right in the middle of it. That made me think of how this is the most wonderful time of the year, but also the time of the year where there's going to be a bunch of soon-to-be-brides feeling a bit overwhelmed about wedding design.

I'm just super obsessed with crests, and want every bride-to-be to consider using a crest. Not only are they versatile (you can just slap this sucker onto EVERYTHING from invitations to menus!), they're super personal and tell your story as a couple, which makes it the perfect custom design element for savvy DIY brides who are all about the personal touch. And trust me, your entire wedding is going to be set to go once you've got one of these guys. So how versatile are they really? Let me count the ways...

The rest of the invitation is pretty simple, and the crest is the star here

The rest of the invitation is pretty simple, and the crest is the star here

1. Invitation

The easy one, all you need is a crest and a pretty font and you have an invitation. Whether you're savvy with Photoshop or just want to type it up in Word, printed or even e-vite that sucker, including the image of your crest makes your design look instantly pulled together.


2. Envelope dress-up

From the postage stamp to the return address to the wax seal, using your crest will allow you to add a little something to your otherwise plain envelope.  


The menu is easy to overlook, but it could be the star of your table setting.

The menu is easy to overlook, but it could be the star of your table setting.

3. Day-of Paper Goods

Carry on the theme of the wedding for day-of and use the crest on top of your menu. And don't stop there--brand your wedding throughout, from your seating chart to program, all your DIY projects are a breeze with the crest.

4. For Happily Ever After

Just because your wedding is over, doesn't mean your crest's duty is done. Display the crest on your wall as you start your new life together! And look, now that you're married, you are going to need to send out holiday cards every year too... just sayin.

5. Gift

Not getting married but know a couple who has it all and is impossible to find gifts for? This is such a unique piece that could be made into everything from a mug to t-shirt to personal stationery!  

What love story inspired this crest? Read about it  here .

What love story inspired this crest? Read about it here.

Interested in getting your own crest designed? Let's do this!

Watercolor Supply List

There's a saying in Japanese that translates to: a master does not choose his tools. Apparently, the English translation is "a poor workman quarrels with his tools" and "there's many a good tune played on an old fiddle." Idea is the same, right, that if you're a master then it shouldn't matter what tool you use.

Well, I'm not a master. So there's that.

When you're just starting out with a hobby, it's so easy to become discouraged because you're not getting any immediate results. At least for me, if I can't do SOMETHING in the first try, I kind of write the hobby off as something I just couldn't do. Now there are folks out there who are much more patient and forgiving than I am, but just in case there are people out there that's like that, here's a supply list for watercolor--we're the master of choosing tools, y'all.

One thing I want to preface this with is that when you're building your supply list, think of it in terms of the sum of its parts--in other words, if you splurge on one thing, go cheaper on another, so that you're not stuck with a tool box that breaks the bank. Think about what's important to you and make investments as necessary.

It's almost like building your makeup collection--if you splurge on foundation, you might reach for a cheaper chapstick right? Cos you value your skin over color on your lips? Or when you're building an outfit, you might pair a statement top with simple jeans to help balance it out. Same idea. 

No need to splurge: Paper

Before I go further, don't mistake splurge with quality. You can still get high-quality material, as long as you pay attention to the specs. Just don't go for the exuberant one.

For paper, I tend to think that as long as it checks off my must-have list, I don't need to buy the paper that's 2x the price. The non-negotiable must-have list is:

  • Cold-Press
  • Acid-free
  • 140lb
Fluid 100 Watercolor Cp 140Lb Ez-Block 6X8

Believe it or not, there are really great affordable options that check off everything on that list. Now the nice-to-have to add here is 100% cotton. This makes the price jump a bit.

By how much, you ask? Well the same company that makes my favorite paper makes the premium version of this. For the same size, you go from a list price of $9 or so, to about $14. It doesn't seem like much, but remember that paper is a perishable material that you ALWAYS use up. So for me, if there's an affordable alternative then I'll take it.


Go for something kind of nice: Paint

What makes the paint expensive? So the ingredients of a watercolor paint can basically be boiled down to 3 ingredients: water, gum arabic, and pigment. Water is easy, and gum arabic you can think of it like the egg in a meatball, it's a glue/binder. And then the money maker is the pigment. You know how 100% juice is more expensive than juice concentrate? You've now got the paint price discrepancy figured out.

So is it worth it? Short answer is kind of. Again paint is also a perishable tool within our kit, but yes it's at a much slower pace than paper. And when you use the high-quality stuff, the stuff that's made out of true minerals, the color it creates is breathtaking. But when you look at how the same color costs 2x, almost 3x more for the GOOD stuff, reality quickly sets in.

You probably know that Winsor & Newton is the fucking Cadillac of paints. This is what dreams are made of. Then there are watercolor cakes, the stuff that gets powdery when it dries. I like to go somewhere in the middle, with watercolor paint that still comes in a tube, without breaking the bank.

I currently use Holbein tubes and love them. As exotic as the name sounds the company is actually Japanese, and they have really high-quality pigments that are bright. And did you know that Japan has the oldest professional watercolor tradition in the world? Me either.

The set I'm showing here is a pretty standard set, and it will have all the colors you'll really ever need. The tiny 5ml tubes actually will go a long way. To use, get a plastic paint pan (so cheapy it doesn't even get its own section in this roundup), squeeze them out, and dry overnight. You can use it wet too, but you end up getting too much on the brush and it's wasteful.

Go for the good stuff. Sell your soul if you can: Brushes

Ladies and gents, here we are. If you can sell your soul for these, do it. 

Whether you've been doing this a while or just starting out, the brush is an extension of your hand and you will always be able to tell the difference between a good brush and a not-so-good brush, unfortunately. So here I present two options.

The good stuff is Kolinsky sable. It's derived from the tail of a weasel, and it's super soft, drinks up water and paint, but releases in the perfect proportion. Whatever paper or paint you're using, if the brush is great, then you are in good shape. The listing here is actually a great price for this, so totally snatch it up.

If that seems like a lot (and trust, the bigger the sizes they get to hundreds of dollars), a great great alternative is synthetic sable. The listing from Amazon calls it Golden Taklon for some reason, but it's actually a blend of synthetic sable hairs that create a really soft, beautiful brush. It works really nicely.

As far as size and shape goes, and there are endless combinations of the two, if you have two round brushes in a size 6 and a size 10 or 12 (essentially, one big and one small) you should be set to go. Round brushes are the ideal jack-of-all-trades because the thin tip allows you to do details, while the round belly lets you do thicker strokes. Talk about an army knife, right? You can begin experimenting with other sizes and shapes as you grow, but you just need these to start out.

Hope that helps to build your watercolor toolkit! If you have any questions, or if you feel I've missed an essential tool, feel free to drop me a line in the comments!